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SEARCH AND REUNION
Supporting the Path Back to Family
The decision to search is not an easy one for many adults from the child welfare system and their biological parents. “What if they don’t want to know me?” “What if I don’t like what I find?” the children wonder. Birth parents may ask themselves, “What if they don't know that they were adopted?” or “Do I have the right to interfere in their life?” These are all natural questions. After all, in an adoption search we are seeking answers about ourselves, our heritage, or our children. None of this is to be entered into lightly. What we find may change our lives forever. Most people do find answers to some of their questions, and these answers may bring them a sense of peace.
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Preparing to Search
Before you even begin your search, taking some time for self-reflection and emotional preparation can make a world of difference. This journey can bring up a wide range of feelings, and that's perfectly normal. Consider connecting with a therapist or counsellor experienced in child welfare and family reunification. You don't have to do this alone! Connecting with support groups, both local and online, offers a warm and welcoming space to share experiences, gain practical advice, and receive empathetic support from others who truly understand. Learning about potential outcomes and gently managing your expectations is an important first step.
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How to Search
The practicalities of searching in Canada are largely guided by provincial legislation. Each province and territory has its own disclosure laws, determining what information is accessible. Your first step should be to reach out to the relevant provincial or territorial child welfare authority or the agency involved. Many provinces now allow adults who were in care, and their biological family members, to access non-identifying and sometimes identifying information, though certain conditions or contact preferences may apply. Beyond official channels, many individuals find success through online reunion registries, social media groups, and even consumer DNA testing.
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Reunion
The reunion phase is a significant and often deeply moving milestone. It's completely normal for all parties involved to experience a complex mix of emotions, from joy and relief to perhaps some grief or even disappointment. Individuals who were in care might find themselves reflecting on a lost past, while biological family members may revisit feelings of loss. It's important to approach reunion with an open heart, clear communication, and realistic expectations. Support groups remain a crucial resource, offering a safe space to process emotions. Establishing healthy boundaries and taking the time to build a relationship at a comfortable pace for everyone involved is key to a positive and respectful reunion.
Resources by Provinces/Territories
Click on your province or territory to find local adoption laws and support services.
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