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SEARCH AND REUNION

Supporting the Path Back to Family

The decision to search is not an easy one for many adults from the child welfare system and their biological parents. “What if they don’t want to know me?” “What if I don’t like what I find?” the children wonder. Birth parents may ask themselves, “What if they don't know that they were adopted?” or “Do I have the right to interfere in their life?” These are all natural questions. After all, in an adoption search we are seeking answers about ourselves, our heritage, or our children. None of this is to be entered into lightly. What we find may change our lives forever. Most people do find answers to some of their questions, and these answers may bring them a sense of peace.

Take one step at a time

1 Preparing to Search

Before beginning your search, taking time for self-reflection and emotional preparation can make a significant difference. This journey can bring up a wide range of emotions, and that is completely normal. Connecting with a therapist or counsellor experienced in child welfare and family reunification can provide valuable support. You do not have to go through this alone!

Support groups, both local and online, can also offer a safe and welcoming space to share experiences, gain practical advice, and receive understanding from others who have gone through similar situations. Taking time to learn about possible outcomes and setting realistic expectations is an important first step.

2 How to Search

Searching in Canada is guided by provincial legislation, with each province and territory having its own disclosure laws that determine what information can be accessed. A good first step is to contact the relevant provincial or territorial child welfare authority or the agency involved.

Many provinces allow adults who were in care, as well as their biological family members, to access non-identifying and sometimes identifying information, although certain conditions or contact preferences may apply. In addition to official channels, people often use online reunion registries, social media groups, and consumer DNA testing to support their search.

Reunion

The reunion phase is a significant and often deeply emotional milestone. It is normal for everyone involved to experience a range of feelings, including joy, relief, grief, or even disappointment. Individuals who were in care may reflect on a lost past, while biological family members may revisit their own experiences of loss.

Approaching reunion with an open mindset, clear communication, and realistic expectations is important. Support groups can provide a safe space to process these emotions. Establishing healthy boundaries and building relationships at a pace that feels comfortable for everyone is key to a positive and respectful reunion.